10.02.2012

Black and White Confessions

44 comments
 
I have a confession to make...







Black and White Bodycon Dress: Forever 21+
Black Peeptoe Pumps: SM Parisian Plus
Black and White Faux Snakeskin Clutch: CMG
Bangles: C and A (Shanghai)

This is another first for me--wearing a bodycon dress.

As much as I am changing (for the better, I hope) and becoming braver in showing off my "curves", at times, I am still overcome by my insecurities. Negative self-image and voices of past bullies ghosts haunt me from time to time and wreak havoc on my self-esteem, causing doubts to resurface once again. Thoughts composed of questions like these plague me: "What will people think? Keri ko ba 'to? (Do I have the guts to wear this?) Do I even look good in this or do I look like I'm trying a little too hard?"

This made me rethink my dress over and over again, and try on about five different pairs of shoes and about six cover-ups to make me blend in more with the crowd. Looking at these photos, I realize it's not even short, but at that time, it felt like a mini-dress to me. I actually changed to flats, but when I was going down the stairs, my sister insisted I march right back up and wear heels instead. I'm so lucky to have a sister that supports and cheers me whenever I'm regressing back to an insecure doubting Thomas. She pushes me to be better, to look at myself not with eyes that have been tainted by labels of the past, but with kindness and appreciation.

She kept saying, "Why did you change? Bagay naman eh. (It suits you.) Don't be shy!"

I'm so glad I listened to her.

Because to be honest, I am a little proud of myself for strutting my stuff that night and for feeling like I do deserve to be called "sexy" for once.

Hugs,
Belated Bloomer

44 comments:

  1. to be honest, it looks good on you sis. don't deprive yourself. just stay gorg! :)

    btw, thanks for dropping by at my blog...just followed you :) hugs!

    ReplyDelete
  2. You rocked this dress! Loving all the little accessories and details too.

    ReplyDelete
  3. You look hot! I'm glad your sister convinced you to put on some heels :) Rock it!!!

    ReplyDelete
  4. and you pull it off really well! Good on you, lady! We all have insecurities, but life is too short to worry about them!
    ♥ laura
    the blog of worldly delights
    the shop of worldly delights

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I'll try to keep that in mind. Thank you, Laura!

      Delete
  5. You look stunning. That dress is very sexy and fits you perfectly. I hope your insecurities never keep you from working anything that looks that amazing on you. I love your heels too.

    Tracy @ Sunny Days and Starry Nights

    ReplyDelete
  6. Being sexy starts with being confident. It surely takes a great deal of confidence to wear a dress like this. Don't let any lowlife tell you otherwise- you are a beautiful lady. And if you ask me, wearing a pair of peep-toe or open-toe (preferably) high-heel shoes is also a sexy and elegant touch. For this post, I applaud you for standing up for yourself as well as being confident in your own appearance and style. Much love to you!

    johnbmarine.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  7. It's more a tailored dress, and it suits you.

    Lately I've been clinging to those types of cuts.

    ReplyDelete
  8. you look fabulous! the outfit suits you well and i love the print of the dress! keep the attitude! :)

    ReplyDelete
  9. Sis i am seeing myself in you. :) hihihi... How do you manage to wear sleeveless??? gosh! i cant!

    followed you by the way! Mind to follow back?

    www.keezandmakeup.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. "Palakasan ng loob, pakapalan ng mukha." Hahaha! Say it with me now... :D

      Delete
  10. The dress itself hurts my eyes (in an awesome way). You need to feel like you look good because you look just great to me! The heels definitely finish it off, so good on you for putting 'em on after all. <3

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks Sarah! Hope your eyes weren't too painful! Haha!

      Delete
  11. Don't mind other people, it will make you feel conscious all the time. And besides, you look great in that dress! :D

    ReplyDelete
  12. Nice outfit.
    http://xtheperfectmess.blogspot.com.au

    ReplyDelete
  13. You look amazing!! Just be confident in everything -- no matter what anyone says or may think! If you rock an outfit, who cares what others think?! (:

    -theresa
    collaredblouse.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  14. I love that dress, the print is so bold. And I must say that you look positively stunning, and don't let anyone make you think otherwise!

    ReplyDelete
  15. you look so beautiful! this dress really suits you, i like the design :)

    and don't worry about what other people say if they have negative remarks, they're just lashing out because of their own insecurities. you look great though especially with those heels, and confidence is sexy! :)

    ReplyDelete
  16. I can totally relate to your post, but honestly? You look absolutely gorgeous! Confidence is the key to beauty (according to Bobbi Brown) Hehehe... Super LOVE your blog! You have so much content that I can relate to! You have great style, and looks like you're a very nice woman.

    I followed you! I am hoping you can visit my blog too and maybe a follow back? Thank you for this post. Truly, it was inspiring :) More power to you!

    XOXO

    www.MusingsofaMakeupMaven.com (http://sabshernandez.blogspot.com)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you, Sabs! I'll surely drop by your blog too!

      Delete
  17. I have the same dress!!! Though I have to say, I think it looks so much better on you! Beautiful!

    It was my first bodycon dress too and it took me a couple of months to wear it, but now I am obsessed. Loving bodycon. Why not?
    Crystal

    ReplyDelete
  18. Exactly my sentiments, Crystal! After wearing one and seeing how flattering it is, I can now say I look at bodycons with excitement and not fear! :D


    ReplyDelete
  19. I think you look great! I'm a chubby girl myself and only gained my confidence in my 30s. I'm so adding you to my blog roll. I hope you can visit me too. http://www.mariaatienza.weebly.com

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Sure, I'll visit, Maria. Oh, confidence is hard to find AND keep but we just have to keep striving for it. :)

      Delete
  20. I'm totally in love with your dress! You totally look so gorgeous! You're so inspirational too! I really hope I'll be able to meet you in person, you seem to be so nice and I'm sure we'll have so much fun bonding!

    * I have an upcoming giveaway sponsored by Suesh. Subscribe to my channel to be able to join my upcoming giveaway. It will be opened for my local and international subscribers! ^_^

    xoxo,

    Iya
    http://youtube.com/missplpify
    http://missplpify.blogspot.com
    http://facebook.com/Missplpify

    ReplyDelete

 
© 2012. Design by Main-Blogger - Blogger Template and Blogging Stuff