8.01.2013

Be-YOU-tiful

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We all struggle with fluctuations in our self-confidence, especially when we fall short of what society deems attractive and desirable. Sometimes, our confidence is up and out there, and other times, it's hiding in a corner. A reader sent me a letter after reading this and this to share with me her personal struggles with it.

Here's what I think.

I can relate to what you're going through. I used to be a lot thinner too (I was so much bigger, then thinner and then bigger again, but that's another story for another time). People sometimes come up to me and ask me why I let myself get this big again. I just think that my body is meant to pack on a bit more fat than others, plus that I have PCOS so my hormones are out of whack too. I like my food, relish it, enjoy foodtripping like a hobby. I also think there shouldn't be a need to apologize for things that we enjoy. However, there is a point where health becomes an issue. Since you are gaining weight because of hormones that you can't control, there's really no one to blame here.

You SHOULD feel good about yourself despite those wacky hormones. And you're right! Don't put your fabulousness on hold because time waits for no one. We should look and feel our best selves right now. Imagine looking back and thinking, why did I allow myself to look like (to quote Oprah) a Schlumpadinka when I could've looked High Fashyown?


When I lost a lot of weight and people kept showering me with compliments, I felt like I still wasn't enough. I barely even have photos of myself in that size since I hated how I looked like in photos, fat or not. I went around in a fitter body with a lot more clothing options and yet my self-esteem remained low. I'm even more confident NOW, than I did thirty pounds ago! So the problem lies within our minds and around our beliefs, and not exclusively with our bodies. Our size isn't what makes us beautiful. When you start loving you for you, you'll find that others will too. :)

So go for it! Don't let your beauty go to waste!

Hugs,
The Belated Bloomer

PS: Have you had to go through the same issues? Feel free to share your two cents below!

24 comments:

  1. i'm not stick thin either and and i feel like all those years spent in the BPO industry (7!) screwed up my hormones too. the last two years were especially stressful but now my body is slowly adjusting since i'm back in the morning shift. i have learned to be comfortable with my body type. i do not allow myself to be pressured into dieting since, as you can see in my blog, i love good food too. :) thank you for continuing to blog and represent real women out there.

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    1. Thank you, Rose. :) I consider it a privilege.

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  2. i really appreciate this entire post. its very touching as i also struggle with self confidence and fear of getting judge by people. thank you :)

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    1. I shared this letter so we remember that we aren't alone in our struggles. :)

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  3. Such an inspiring post! What a lovely letter to have received :)

    -Jen

    www.vibrantbeautyblog.com

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  4. What an interesting post! Now that I'm getting older and in my quarter life age, I have accepted the fact that it is very hard to get my old thin body. Girls when reaches 25 years old are going to grow wider. I used to be very thin but now I have gained weight and pissed of my belly bulges. Haha! You're totally right. Do not hide your flaws but love it. Know the clothes that will flatter our figure. :) I followed you by the way.

    I am Jenniya

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    1. Yes, love every part of what makes you you! ;)

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  5. This is a great post Abi and very inspiring! It really does show that there a lot of people who go through the same struggles but we shouldn't let it get to us. I think that comments and letters like the one you got are what makes blogging so much more fulfilling. :)

    Nina
    http://curvymod.blogspot.com/

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  6. This is a good post Abi.. I am also sometimes struggling with self confidence.

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    1. I hope you continually fight to build it up, as we all need to do.

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  7. <3 Thank you for putting up a blog. I hope you continue to inspire a lot of people.

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to drop by and letting me know that. <3

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  8. I love this, and I love you. You're gorgeous, I'm gorgeous, we're all beautiful and deserve to feel beautiful. The awesome thing is I believe there is a rebellion against patriarchal beauty standards arising. More and more women are refusing to limit their standard of beauty and are choosing to accept themselves. And more and more men are standing up and saying that real women don't look like the ones in magazines and they find us attractive and sexy no matter the size.

    :D

    love,
    a

    www.missdecaf.blogspot.com

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    1. Hoorah for gorgeous people who are sexy, no matter the size!

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  9. hi there! i'm a belated bloomer, too :)

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  10. I think you're beautiful outside and within, Abi. Never mind what any haters may say. I think it's great people are looking up to you for advice. Very nice post. Even though I'm a male, even I know beautiful when I see it- and you, Abi, are beautiful in every sense of the word.

    johnbmarine.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks John! Your support is invaluable!

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  11. We are all beautiful. Keep on rocking. :)

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