8.16.2013

One Giant Leap

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Houndstooth Peplum Top: Dorothy Perkins
Striped Bodycon Skirt / Silver Earrings: Forever 21 Plus
Black Sandals: SM Parisian Plus
Red Orange Flap Bag: Charles and Keith

One small step for fashion, one giant leap for this belated bloomer.

This ensemble is an accomplishment. I'm a former exclusively pants-only kind of girl, where wearing sleeveless tops made me super conscious and shorts just downright terrified me. I couldn't even fall in line with other girls in dressing rooms without having to look down at my feet, fiddle with clothes in my basket or bring out my phone to distract me, because I was so afraid to look other women in the eye and find judgement. Even though it was all I knew as one of the biggest girls in school from when I was ten until I graduated, it stung every single time.

Wearing a fitted sleeveless, peplum top in a houndstooth print, pairing it with a body-con striped skirt and finishing the whole thing off with heels is kind of a big deal to me. (The aviator shades are just to add pizzazz.) I'm still in a state of disbelief when I see photos like these. Having the attitude and confidence to pull if off is a far cry from the fat girl who was picked to join a group dance presentation in school, because her teacher spotted her at the back of a Physical Education class, surprisingly agile and quick to learn the steps. She secretly, desperately wanted to dance, show everyone that she could move like all the other lithe girls half her size and prove their assumptions wrong, but instead, she pretended not to be interested (breaking her heart in the process) because they all had to wear denim shorts and she didn't know if she could find one that would fit, or if she had the guts to wear it out on stage if she did.

I couldn't be prouder of how far I've come.

If you find your self-esteem in a deflated state, keep in mind that your size doesn't define you. Your weight doesn't give people the right to label you or box you in with limits. Your shape doesn't make you less important of a person.  Character, intelligence, talent, potential - these exponentially more important things can never be measured by size.

PS: Do some types of clothes still terrify you? What triggers your fashion anxiety? I think sharing these thoughts, issues and experiences help in sorting out our baggage and helping us move forward, so type away below. :)

Hugs,
The Belated Bloomer

55 comments:

  1. I don't know what to say, a "beautiful post" is not enough. I wish I had this kind of nice words to read when I was young. I feel for you, though I was the opposite, I was that super thin ugly and dark girl in high school, the very same shattered self esteem I used to have.

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    1. If I had read this somewhere else, the same thought of wishing I could have read this years ago would come to mind. But we can't erase the past and only move forward. At least by going through those insecure years, I learned genuine empathy. :)



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  2. Long-time lurker here. When I first opened this post, my initial thought was "This girl knocked it out of the park! That print-mixing!". And then that became "She looks so fierce, can I look that fierce, yes please", which, naturally, devolved to "I"m too ugly/fat/gross/self-incriminating-adjective-of-the-day to pull that off. Time to buy a pint of ice cream and put on my sad pants."

    Of course, then you go and write such lovely words about overcoming such thoughts. It brought a big smile my face.

    I've come a long way from my days of hiding in sweatsuits 2 sizes too large, but sleeveless and anything tight around the belly area still requires a few minutes of self-pep-talks. And the color white. Still can't do that one.



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    1. First off, congratulations on moving on from two-sizes-too-large sweatsuits! :D

      If you're not comfortable with some types of clothes still, then maybe you can take it a step at a time. Go for lighter colors until you're so used to it, white is just another color to you. :)n I'm so happy that sharing my past is able to bring smiles now.

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  3. What a great post and what a wonderful leap to take, it's so awesome to hear how far you've come. I know how you feel, I used to have my mom make me clothes because I could never find clothes that fit me and have always been teased by family for my weight. But I think it's always empowering when you come out of the comfort zone and feel great in doing things that you would never think you would do. I still have a hard time wearing sleeveless shirts, but im slowly getting better. But can i just say, I love the houndstooth peplum with the bodycon skirt! :)

    Nina
    http://curvymod.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thanks Nina! It does feel empowering to do things that my mind said I couldn't or shouldn't.

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  4. I have always been "just right" in terms of body fat ratio index blah blah, but after I had my operation, my hormones went haywire and even with the slightest amount of food, i slowly ballooned. Now, I'm trying to accept that I'm fabulously curvy, I still shy away from sleeveless tops and shorts, but you inspire me to not be afraid and be proud.

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    1. You are FABULOUSLY CURVY as you put it! Go on now and flaunt it!

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  5. This combination of houndstooth and stripes is a most interesting one. I like your handbag and love those sandals. Part of fashion is confidence. Here in this outfit, you've exhibited great confidence going with these fashion choices. You have my full respect for this one! More than ever... this is just Abi awesomeness.

    johnbmarine.blogspot.com

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  6. Good to see you step out of your comfort zone. You look Great.

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  7. I can't say, anything.. You look fabulous sis.^_^

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    1. Sobra..^_^ Stay pretty


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  8. That skirt and top were made for each other...you look fabulous!

    Annie
    The Other Side of Gray

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  9. you pulled off the outfit perfectly! having the self-confidence to wear it really does wonders. i'm terrified of wearing shorts and sleeveless shirts until now. the shorts are negotiable but the sleeveless shirts aren't. hopefully i can get over that phobia soon.

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    1. True, confidence really does wonders. Without it, even with the same clothes, an outfit wouldn't have looked the same.

      And about your sleeveless phobia, try short sleeves and then shorter sleeves to help you get used to it!

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  10. Ah, the peplum looks great on you! So pretty. And love the red lipstick! You look great :)

    -Jen

    www.vibrantbeautyblog.com

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    1. i was going to say the same thing about your red lipstick :) suits you well :)

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  11. Wow, I read this post more than once because of how beautiful you explain your experience and how related those are to mine. I am coming from far too and right now nothing can stop me shinning through and living a positive and inspiring life for others. I wish I knew that my size does not define me from earlier however it is not too late that I know now because I am fortunate to be living my life to the fullest presently. Cant ask for anything better ... you look great on that ensemble. great post, thank you!!!

    http://thickfitandfabulous.blogspot.com/

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    1. It's wonderful to know about how far you've come! Stay positive!

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  12. When I first saw this i wanted to gush how awesomely put-together this outfit is (i LOVE the mod color scheme and the fun print mixing) and how pretty you looked, and then I read the words and wanted to cheer really loud for you! Go you for ditching that self-conscious high schooler and loving the skin you're in. You are one hot tamale, and you should dress like this all the time!! Internet high five ^5

    xo marlen
    Messages on a Napkin

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    1. Internet high five ^5! :D Thank you for the pep talk, Marlen!

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    1. I think we have the same body structure. Well, aside from the boobs - I'm not "gifted."

      I love the houndstooth!!! Panalong panalo.

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    2. Boobs can be gifts and curses...depending on the activity. Haha!

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  14. I admire your confidence sis, what really makes an outfit stand out is really in the way the person carries it and you did it well!

    As for my own dilemma, after losing weight my arms are still a bit big and isn't proportioned with my body so I stray away from sleeveless tops and dresses as much as possible. I do have several sleeveless clothes so when I need to wear them out, dinadaan ko na lang sa attitude and complexion ko :P

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    1. True. Most of the time, lakas nalang ng loob ang kailangan. Hehe! :)

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  15. I so love the top. I love the way you mixed it. I don't know if carry ko mag mix ng stripes and checkered (or something like that, anung print yan sis?). But you totally rocked the look.

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    1. Houndstooth! :D Try mo lang in your room and see if it works. :)

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  16. Houndstooth and peplum? I think you're really after my heart with this outfit. You look so amazing, no wonder you feel so confident! I'm glad to hear that you're really coming around with your self esteem issues because I feel like you're a gorgeous woman and you really know how to accentuate your best assets!

    Wearing pants actually terrifies me. I have a larger bottom (aka bubble butt) and I just feel like I look terrible in pants!

    xo

    Ashley

    <a href="http://www.southerncabelle.com>Southern (California) Belle</a>

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    1. Aww, thanks Ashley! Pants are mostly where bigger girls are comfortable in, but I guess we all have our "areas of weakness."

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  17. Oh man, oh man! This outfit! I LOVE it. Strong and bold with the black/white/red combo and the heel/pencil skirt/peplum combo. But most of all I love the fierce confidence that you exude.

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  18. I'm glad that despite of how intimidating fashion is, you didn't mind storming in. Seriously, sometimes i get too uncomfortable lining too in the fitting room because just because the people there really intimidates me. But what the hell, I stopped minding too. :)

    Love your outfit!

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  19. Great mixed print look!

    If you get a chance, please vote for me in the Wallis contest. xo http://bit.ly/15vLhMj

    www.kacieskloset.blogspot.com
    www.daisyraeboutique.com

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  20. *slow clap*

    Havey na havey sis. I LOOOOVVVEEEE IT!

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    1. Haha! Havey na havey indeed! Thanks Christine!

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  21. Hi abi! You look gorgeous! It's been a while since I last visited your blog and I am really so happy that you're blogging more often now! Your blog has bloomed so much since the first time we met and im so happy for you! Congrats on the wonderful posts, you look so pretty and sexy! Keep on bloggin' ♥

    XOXO
    Sabs, The Makeup Maven

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    1. Aww, thank you! Really appreciate it coming from you. :)

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  22. PS I just shared this inspiring post on my FB wall. You truly did inspire a lot of plus sized women out there including me :) you voiced out what others dare not admit. Proud of you! You are truly gorgeous inside and out ♥

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    1. Your words push me to continue what I do through this blog, even though it does leave me feeling vulnerable at times. Again, thank you. :)

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  23. Woot woot for the houndstooth! I'm sporting that pattern in shorts, but I love your peplum top! Great look girlie! Stopping by from the IFB #109 link up!

    http://chelseypatti.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks Chelsey! It's my 1st houndstooth piece!

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  24. I'm rooting for you, sis! I feel glad whenever I see your pics ;)
    I've never worn a mini. hehehe.

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    1. There's always the first time, right? :)

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