9.03.2013

Unsleeved

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Brocade Peplum Top: Forever 21 Plus
Cranberry Jeggings: Dorothy Perkins
Bejeweled Sandals: Steve Madden

I can still remember very clearly the 1st time I wore a sleeveless top (this one to be specific) to a mixer and spent the ENTIRE night wondering if people were staring at my arms. I was so self-conscious that the minutes ticked by like hours. The attendees got to meet other people, had fun, enjoyed the food, gained acquaintances, built friendships while I don't even remember the faces of the people I shared the table with. All night, I kept wishing I could blend in with the shadows, allowing my insecurities to rule over me.

As you can see, I've outgrown that insecurity. I now proudly show off my arms, sag, flab and all. I think because I don't bring unnecessary attention to them, people don't mind them too. It's so liberating to finally be able to wear what I want to wear without feeling so conscious anymore. I said it last time, people treat you the way you treat yourself and at the extent that you allow, so don't let people overstep their boundaries and keep you from feeling good about yourself.

Growing up in this day and age, we are provided with a very rigid set of beauty standards that 99% of us will never reach, making us feel like we are not and never will be good enough. But it's all bull. Our body structures aren't built the same. Our skin color differs, even from our parents or our siblings who we share the same genetic code with. What makes us different shouldn't be made fun of, or laughed at, but celebrated. Every person is made unique, with features and parts that were intended by nature to form a perfectly imperfect human being.

Besides, life would be so boring if we can all fit into a mold, right?

Hugs,
The Belated Bloomer

45 comments:

  1. Really well said :)
    Elle www.theellecurve.com

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  2. 'Our body structures aren't built the same.' - AMEN to that. Although I have to admit, I'm just like you and is very conscious about wearing sleeveless tops/dresses.

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  3. Well written - I'm all about body confidence!
    I love your pants - the color of it is so rich! And you look beautiful in this outfit! :]

    xo Deborah
    Coffee, Prose, and Pretty Clothes

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  4. You look good, sleeved or unsleeved. :) Very well said. I love the sandals and the arm partey!

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  5. Amen to that! Let's show off our arms! \m/

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  6. Hi,

    What's your Forever 21+ size?

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    1. Hi Chel, it's 1X. Sometimes though, I can go down to XL or go up to 2X depending on the cut and fabric.

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    2. I'm XL to 1X din! Sabi ko na magkasize tayo. I think same height - 5'7"?

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    3. Yup! Thought I was 5'6" but the most recent measurement I had said 5'7". :)

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  7. It's rare I say this, but these are jeggings I like. The top is stylish, but that cranberry color is lovely for these jeans. The sandals are also cool. And once again, you deserve loads of praise for your confidence-instilling words. Much love to you, Abi!

    johnbmarine.blogspot.com

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  8. who cares about the arms, with divine fez like that? kabog silang lahat! ahlaveeeet!

    xoxo,
    Tin
    kabadinganandbeyond.blogspot.com

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  9. So well said again Abi! And that peplum looks great on you! Thanks for stopping by Patti Cake as well, yes I am totally in love with that dress. :)

    http://chelseypatti.blogspot.com

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  10. Its just an arms.. the important is, keri boom boom you teh ^^

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  11. Fantastic post. I get wary about showing my arms too because they aren't as toned as I want them to be, they're too pale, etc., etc. But you're right, no one really notices the imperfections but me!

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  12. Great post Abi, I think wearing sleeveless was one of the hardest things for me to do because I'm very used to wearing sweaters and jackets even in the hottest weather. But once I decided to not care and wear sleeveless it felt great and but then again I do have good days and bad days but thats always normal. But yeah I have to say your outfit is great I love the color of the jeans and the lacey top! :)

    Nina
    http://curvymod.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thanks Nina! Glad you're also trying out new things!

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  13. very well said. and yes, i'm all for embracing our uniqueness.

    "Our body structures aren't built the same." --- my thoughts exactly. hopefully clothing companies will soon realize that the population isn't merely composed of model-like individuals.

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  14. Yay you! Nevermind the hushers. Go on with what you want to wear. :) Admiring your confidence, sis.

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  15. I think you look lovely! What a perfect summery top. Three cheers for overcoming your insecurities and going for it! xo

    -Jen

    www.vibrantbeautyblog.com

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  16. Once again, you rock those colored jeans and make them look effortless awesome. Bravo. :D

    love
    a

    www.missdecaf.blogspot.com

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  17. love the top! so chic!

    -satisfiedgirl-
    phranczeskapharell.blogspot.com

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  18. Those are pretty pics! I have kind of hated my arms too, but hey, I might try those sleeveless ones myself :)

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    1. Go ahead! It would open up a whole new section of clothes. :)

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  19. beautiful colors
    yay for unconventional beauty!

    passionateturban.blogspot.com

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  20. The shape of this tank suits you, you look feminine and flirty-oh, so pretty. This is a nice blog. You should be proud of it and your creativity!

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