11.13.2013

A Fighting Chance

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I still find it odd how nowadays I can wear a skirt and no one blinks. I used to think that if people saw how big my legs and arms were, if I even dare to show them what I hid under pants and sleeves, people would smirk, make rude comments or point fingers at this oversized body and I would later have to pick the fragmented pieces of my self-esteem from the floor.

See how the mind works? It picks your fears, blow it up to huge proportions and keep you from doing anything outside your comfort zone. I stayed in this la-dee-da area surrounded by fluffy pillows year after year, because my mind showed the worst possible scenarios if I take one step outside the yellow line.

What you have to understand though is that our minds project those horrible what-if's, because they want to protect us. They want to keep our fragile self safe, padded and enclosed in the familiar. If they had a choice, they'd rather keep your ego sheltered than risk having it bruised, torn or worse, shattered.  But life loses meaning when we stay only where we're comfortable. We run the risk of growing stale, of developing such a narrow view of the world as a minefield, of thinking we've plateaued and can never amount to anything more.

So even though it feels crazy, poop-impelling, heart-pounding, palm-sweating scary to venture out, don't let that comfort zone trick you into thinking you can stay there forever. It could be a prison, if you let it. Go out, meet people from different walks of life, give a little of yourself, make mistakes, move on, explore the world with open hands -- ready to grab a chance when you pass it.

Success is not a guarantee, but you have to give yourself a fighting chance. You owe yourself that much.



Speaking of struggles, you must have heard of the huge storm Haiyan (locally known as Yolanda) that wrecked havoc in the Visayas area of the Philippines. People were killed, livelihoods destroyed, and homes were obliterated. The aftermath is heartbreaking as people continue to search for missing family members and essentially fight to survive. We need every bit of help to give them a fighting chance.



The other day, I volunteered to pack relief goods at our local church. We managed to finish 1,000 bags and are preparing for a few thousand more, but even more are still needed to reach the distant towns that were also ravaged by the storm. Should you be looking for avenues to help by donating your money or services, please see some options below.



"Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could do only a little." - Edmond Burke

Money can be earned, but the difference you can possibly make in the life of another is priceless.

Hugs,
The Belated Bloomer

38 comments:

  1. "Success is not a guarantee, but you have to give yourself a fighting chance. You owe yourself that much."

    I love this statement. Like what I used to say when I was younger, half the battle is confidence.You'll never succeed if never even tried, right?

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  2. You are rocking this dress!! Great photos! xx

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  3. So fierce and so beautiful :) Life is too short, enjoy life and do what makes you happy!

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  4. Looking great! I love you in a dress. You are flawless and you are rocking those ankle boots!
    So nice of you to help the victims of Yolanda. They need all they can get. :(

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  5. First off, I love you in this dress. You radiate confidence in it. Second, thank you for sharing this information on ways to help.

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  6. You are so fierce! I really love your sentiment that we sometimes hold ourselves back because we're afraid of backlash. But I think we notice our flaws more than other people do. You look amazing! :]

    xo Deborah
    Coffee, Prose, and Pretty Clothes

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    1. That's true though...we do notice a lot more flaws in ourselves that others do.

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  7. I am loving that dress on you and the booties! You are looking fabulous and my prayers go out to all the families in the Philippines.

    -Vogue&Heels
    www.vogueandheels.com

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  8. You are rocking this dress!! Just found out ur blog - so nice!!
    BTW, thanks for posting the links for people who want to help the Typhoon victims. Hope you are having a wonderful day!
    -Jyoti
    Style-Delights Blog

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    1. Thanks Jyoti! I wanted my blog to help in some way too!

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  9. love this dress!

    passionateturban.blogspot.com

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  10. Being a plus-size blogger is pretty tough, honestly. Even if we try to ignore it, we know "they" exist. But once you just shrug it off and show the world that you're confident with what you've got, because there's so much more to us than that, I guess that's where it all makes a difference. I'm so in love with those boots from Payless too, I've been wearing them a lot at work :D


    xoxo,
    Gelleesh.com

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    1. I know. I just realized after wearing them for a while now that they're a size too big though...so they're not too comfortable for long walks.

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  11. Love this dress on you! Looking amazing! And thanks for raising awareness about the recent tragedy- so important!

    -Jen

    www.vibrantbeautyblog.com

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    1. Thank you! The typhoon victims need all the help they can get!

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  12. Very cute, love this!

    http://chelseypatti.blogspot.com

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  13. So well said! And that dress looks fabulous on you lady :)

    Annie
    The Other Side of Gray

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  14. This post is speaking to me on so many levels since I'm only now, in my thirties, am starting to wear the kind of clothes I want to wear, not the kind that will make me invisible. This is inspiring.

    And for the record, you're looking absolutely gorgeous in that dress!

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    1. Well, it REALLY is better late than never! I'm glad you found your courage! :D

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  15. very nice of you to volunteer sis i really appreciate it when people unite to make a difference and help other people. on the other note you look really beautiful on this dress :)

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    1. Thanks Shayne. Just doing what I can to ease their loss a little. :)

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  16. That's so amazing of you to volunteer like that and thank you for posting the links, every little bit helps!

    You look so fabulous in that dress! It's funny how our mind works like that and I never thought of it as protecting us. I was totally the same way in middle/high school and now it makes sense because that's one of our most vulnerable times. So interesting! But I'm glad your were able to break out of your shell! :)

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  17. Gosh, you're just a great girl, you know that? You're very empowered and kind and fashionable to boot. Can I be just like you? :D

    love,
    a

    www.missdecaf.blogspot.com

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    1. Awww, I wish I am all that. Haha! Thank you though. :)

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