I still find it odd how nowadays I can wear a skirt and no one blinks. I used to think that if people saw how big my legs and arms were, if I even dare to show them what I hid under pants and sleeves, people would smirk, make rude comments or point fingers at this oversized body and I would later have to pick the fragmented pieces of my self-esteem from the floor.
See how the mind works? It picks your fears, blow it up to huge proportions and keep you from doing anything outside your comfort zone. I stayed in this la-dee-da area surrounded by fluffy pillows year after year, because my mind showed the worst possible scenarios if I take one step outside the yellow line.
What you have to understand though is that our minds project those horrible what-if's, because they want to protect us. They want to keep our fragile self safe, padded and enclosed in the familiar. If they had a choice, they'd rather keep your ego sheltered than risk having it bruised, torn or worse, shattered. But life loses meaning when we stay only where we're comfortable. We run the risk of growing stale, of developing such a narrow view of the world as a minefield, of thinking we've plateaued and can never amount to anything more.
So even though it feels crazy, poop-impelling, heart-pounding, palm-sweating scary to venture out, don't let that comfort zone trick you into thinking you can stay there forever. It could be a prison, if you let it. Go out, meet people from different walks of life, give a little of yourself, make mistakes, move on, explore the world with open hands -- ready to grab a chance when you pass it.
Success is not a guarantee, but you have to give yourself a fighting chance. You owe yourself that much.
Speaking of struggles, you must have heard of the huge storm Haiyan (locally known as Yolanda) that wrecked havoc in the Visayas area of the Philippines. People were killed, livelihoods destroyed, and homes were obliterated. The aftermath is heartbreaking as people continue to search for missing family members and essentially fight to survive. We need every bit of help to give them a fighting chance.
The other day, I volunteered to pack relief goods at our local church. We managed to finish 1,000 bags and are preparing for a few thousand more, but even more are still needed to reach the distant towns that were also ravaged by the storm. Should you be looking for avenues to help by donating your money or services, please see some options below.
"Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could do only a little." - Edmond Burke
Money can be earned, but the difference you can possibly make in the life of another is priceless.
The Belated Bloomer